So, I really sorry for beating a dead horse.... but I'm going to anyway.
IJustNeedToBeLoved wrote:
agreed vonno! i don't want you guys to think that i am not happy for her! i meant that before she announced she was dating anyone, it never occurred to me that when she did date that it would be to someone already divorced. but i have no opposition to him and i'm happy for her and i know she's an adult. i wasn't saying i thought he was a bad person because he got divorced and she's being blind. that's not what i said nor what i meant.

but knowing that he's been divorced doesn't make me trust her judgment or his character any less.
NOVEL:

I realize you didn't mean what you said to be insulting in any way, and I only mean this response to offer you a new perspective, not at all to be judgmental on your reaction to the situation.

As far as what you mentioned about Kelly's experiences with divorce, I think you are maybe generalizing the situation a little too much, because (in my opinion) the issue in her childhood wasn't the divorce, it was the fact that her dad abandoned her whole family. Getting a divorce is one thing, but there is absolutely no excuse for abandoning your children, and THAT I believe is what Kelly would have a problem with. If Brandon were no longer in his children's lives I think Kelly would have serious issues with that, because she knows what it's like to have a parent not be there. However, in a divorce where both parents still love and care for the kids, I don't see Kelly relating that to her own situation.

Just based on how open minded Kelly comes across as being, I would find it extremely out of character for her to not take the specifics of Brandon and his ex wife's situation into consideration, and just make a blanket judgement about him being divorced. It's sad, but sometimes people just can't make it work, and being divorced in no way indicates a person's character or their capacity to make a new marriage work, and I believe Kelly knows that.

Again, I did not mean any of this negatively. You said that you felt like you didn't know Kelly as well as you thought you did after this, and I didn't want you to feel that way, so I wanted to offer you my opinion on the situation to possibly help you feel like you understand her better.


P.S. Kelly and Brandon clearly have no business being together when there is just no cute couple name for them. All of these sound like either an alien name or a disease.