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fiesty4ever lol wow I cant really think of anything to say lol in response.
cookbooklady can I get a copy of that book? lol jk
I didnt mean to bring out any bitterness bout being single like I said I like it a majority of the time. I also didnt mean for it to come across as being bitter towards those that are in relationships. The reason I posted the first rant that started all of this is cause I was dwelling on something that happened almost 2 weeks ago. I was out at a bar with some friends for a friend's (more like an acquaintance) birthday and this guy that she had been hooking up with started flirting with me. I was raised that it is polite to acknowledge someone if they speak to you so i did plus I had met the guy before. I in no way was flirting with him. well my acquaintance had been hooking up with him a couple times the past couple weeks but she was hanging all over this other guy she had met the night before. Well she saw me talking to the guy she had been hooking up with and flipped out and accused me of flirting and wouldnt even listen to my side of what really happened. I have done ALOT for this person and in no way deserved to be treated the way she treated me esp over some guy. So its times like that where being single sucks cause just talking to a guy can cause for a fight or stupid pointless drama. Sorry to all my first post may have offended or come across wrong too!! I probably should have not said anything!
In a way though this has taught me a lesson, It has opened my eyes up to how I could answer someone the next time they ask me why I'm single... I can reply with I'm single because I'm enjoying life right now. I'm doing things for me, things that make me happy (ie finishing school in 4 1/2 years instead of postponing a couple years like I originally wanted, hanging out with friends, spending time with family..etc). I'm living my life. I'm single still because I know that one day I'll meet a guy or guys that'll help me find "the one" but I'm not going to look for it. I know it'll happen when the timing is right.
So thank you fellow expressers for helping me with getting to this mind frame! mucho love for y'all!

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bklynchick wrote:

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CBL - I forgot I have a copy of the book! Guess what I am reading on the plane ride to San Diego tomorrow?

And I am putting a happy spin on my situation. At my age while all my friends are home trying to change diapers, keep up with terrible 2 year olds and pray that their husbands pitch in 5% - I am off to San Diego for a carefree weekend of KC, sun, sand, baseball, and oh yeah they DO have the largest naval base in the US! Bring on the eye candy sailors! Consider this the anti-rant.

Now THAT is the spirit!!! You know what is so funny, Erin ~ I finally 'got over it' when I went to the 2w2v tour in Grand Rapids. I love Valerie (the friend I went with) to death, but hearing stories about her marriage all weekend, I finally realized how great it was not to be married, have commitments, demands, etc. There is much to be said for absolute freedom. There's also something to be said for having a special someone of course, but unless it's with the right one there really is no point.

It's learning how to be happy while I'm waiting which was the hard part. But as a book I just read said, "Arguing with reality, with what is, is like trying to teach a cat to bark. You can try and try and ten years later the cat will look at you and say "Meow." I'm single because I'm supposed to be single right now. You know how I know? Because I am. The Universe doesn't make mistakes. Some days that doesn't work, but most days it does.

Actually, maybe a better book would be Loving What Is or I Need Your Love ~ Is It True? by Byron Katie.

P.S. ~ Fiesty and NSync ~ I don't have any more copies of the book and I deleted it off my website a while ago. It was a cookbook I wrote for Kelly. Maybe I'll repost it someday, but honestly, it's not really a part of my thinking any more. But thanks for asking!

Now that I think about it I think I remember you mentioning the book on here when you wrote it!!! i've been around since the MSN Board days gradually posted more and more since then obviously lol. So I've been around for a while lol but yeah like i said i think I remember that. (ETA Is there a way to change my name on here and not have to start my post count over?) bklynchick OH I wish I was joining you lol!! men in uniform= yum!! Anit Rant- I'm listening to Parachutes cd on their website and I Love it!!